The Steamybedtime kingsize consists of a heavy wooden frame, upholstered in black leather. It's a fabulous bed, looks great, feels solid, and has proved itself capable of withstanding some vigorous action! But, its smooth leather finish means there are no bed-posts, or a headboard, to provide natural tie off points for rope, or for attaching handcuffs.
This DIY approach to an under-the-bed restraint system feels more robust than some of the ready made solutions that rely on webbing straps and friction to keep the anchor points in position.
If you enjoy this sort of bedroom bondage as much as we do, you might also like our article: Real Handcuffs vs Furry Handcuffs. With some close up photos, we explore how and why we made the transition to "real" handcuffs...
Obviously, being able to tie your partner to the bed is a pretty fundamental requirement, and it's a pity most furniture stores don't seem to give this sufficient consideration when designing their products. As a bare minimum, you probably want to consider how you intend to create anchor points at all four corners of your bed, for a classic "X" spreadeagle, and in the centre at the foot of the bed, for a "T" shaped tie.
Using loops of accessory cord, easily available in DIY and Outdoors sport shops, might be the easiest solution, and was the first thing we tried. It works pretty well. The loops can be left permanently attached, but are easily tucked away out of sight. The photo above shows Judy secured in a Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist Cuff.
If you're also planning on tying your male partner to the bed, it's worth including a centrally positioned loop at the mid-point of the the bottom of your bed. This facilitates the aptly named "T" position, with feet together and arms to each corner at the top of the bed. Here we're using Bondage Boutique Ankle Cuffs, but by threading a small stainless steel chain-link through each cuff, you can substantially limit the amount of scope for wriggling. We're big fans of these extremely comfortable wrist and ankle cuffs, but the supplied trigger clips are not really strong enough.
The use of these accessory cord loops works well, but when tying off with rope, it was immediately apparent that we needed something better than a simple nylon cord. One possible answer is to simply attach a carabiner to the cord loop, and that's ok, but it tends to flop about, and doesn't easily stay in position ready for when you need it.
All beds will vary, but we found that ours has regularly spaced and very sturdy wooden slats. They can't be removed and with the additional weight of the mattress on top, there is no noticeable flex in them at all. Steve bought these 9cm stainless steel rings on Amazon and attached them to the bed with 4mm accessory cord from a local camping shop. The knots used (apparently!) are a four-coil prusik to attach the cord to the ring, and a reef knot to attach it to the bed slat.
Before the ring is used, it simply rests on the edge of the bed-frame and is very easily picked up and threaded with rope. Once in use, it lifts up and is generally pulled taught, depending on what's going on above!
It's just as convenient when it comes to handcuffs. Here you get the satisfaction hearing the clink of metal on metal, and you know that you will definitely not be going anywhere until your partner releases you. We also like the fact that the tie-off is out of your line of sight whilst on the bed. It's a small aesthetic point, but it might be something that also appeals to you.
There are plenty of ready made solutions when it comes to under the bed restraints, some of which do look really good. Combine them with suitable wrist and ankle restraints and you're sorted. Where you might find some benefit from trying our style of DIY approach is if you have a specific requirement to easily tie off some rope.
Whichever way you choose to go, have fun, and play safely.
Products Mentioned
We've been describing our DIY solution to rigging a bed for some sexy bondage fun. But we do also mention some products and accessories that will undoubtedly add to your fun.
- Fetish Fantasy Double Lock Cuffs
- Tease Furry Handcuffs
- Bondage Boutique Soft Cotton Rope
- Under the Bed Restraints
- Wrist and Ankle Restraints
- Bondage Boutique Soft Wrist Cuffs
- Bondage Boutique Ankle Cuffs
The rope you see upon Judy's lovely left ankle is Okinawa Jute from Esinem-Rope. Bruce Esinem is also behind the site Shibari Classes, which is an excellent resource for online learning.
